on easy rape and actual lovemaking

"I think it is absolutely the responsibility of an artist to look into darkness without blinking. I think it is important that we talk about morality and character and the way we dehumanize one another. But I also think the point has been more than made on film that rape is a terrible thing, and at this point, if you're not contributing some new idea to the conversation, then you are literally just using it as a button, something you push to get a response, and that unnerves me.

If I had to pinpoint what bothers me most about the subject, though, it's that our ratings system in this country is so broken that a film that contains a sustained, brutal rape sequence featuring full-frontal female nudity can breeze right through with an R-rating, but if you include a sequence in which two people engage in spirited, consensual sex and we see anything that resembles reality, you are automatically flirting with an NC-17 or going out unrated. We have created a code of film language in which the single most destructive act of sexual violence is perfect acceptable to depict in the most graphic, clinical detail, but actual love-making has been all but banished from mainstream film. There's no "almost" about it; it is disturbing on a philosophical level to realize how backwards the system is right now, and I think one of the reasons many filmmakers will include a rape scene is so they can get some nudity into their movie, and the context doesn't matter to them." Drew Mc Weeny in The Bigger Picture: What happens when we find 'The Line' as viewers?

Recently I had this conversation with this really nice, young dude. We exchanged music we currently listen to, totally different worlds. He also let me listen to some of the Hiphop stuff he creates himself and also sells. There is this song where he describes that he has this super long penis stuffing women with. Them screaming. Couldn´t really find out just from the lyrics if it was meaning to be pain-or pleasure screaming.

Me: "Hey, just to make sure, you are aware of the fact, that it´s not just about the size, right?" He: "About what else then?" Me: "Ever heard of "clitoris"?" He: "Nope. What do you mean?"